Good morning world!

 

 

What are you waiting for when you have a dream to create? A plan to make? A goal to achieve? A ball to have? Success to Claim? Jennifer McLeod

 

 

For more of my inspirational Quotes, google ‘Jennifer McLeod Quotes’

 

 

“Step Up! to the song inside of you. Following through with that thing that makes your heart sing is likely to help you find your life purpose. Then you will really have something to sing about!” Jennifer McLeod

 

 

“Embrace life as if you really meant it. Treat it like a long-lost very close friend or family member. Now that you have found it, you will want to do everything possible to hold onto it, cherish it; do more for it; love it and make it better.” Jennifer McLeod

 

 

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment!” Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

Just finished talking to a hot prospect regarding Self Harm training consultancy for support staff.   

 

 

Are You living your ultimate life vision today? If no, do you need some inspiration to get you started? If yes, grab a discounted copy of my book here: http://tinyurl.com/kojutv  ‘Born To Win! Live Your Ultimate Life Vision Today direct from my publishers. ‘Liberating People’ - Liberating You!

 

 

Just had another booking for The Psychology of Self Harm & Behaviour Course 25 November 2011. To book your place or forward this info to others, find more details here: http://stepup-international.co.uk/upcoming-events-2/  

 

 

Just one week to go to our Parents Understanding Self Harm Workshop. More info here: http://stepup-international.co.uk/upcoming-events-2/  

There’s still time to book your place, but hurry to avoid disappointment!

 

 

Looking forward to another new Easy Tiger Parents Programme commencing end of September 2011. Do you know of anyone who would benefit from our Easy Tiger Parents Programme – in groups or one-to-one? Let us know

 

 

Senseless killings of and amongst young people! RIP Shaeem

 

 

Focused on Enabling more educators to manage the self harming situation at school.

 

 

Step Up! International is looking forward to assisting more schools/teachers/educators manage the self harm situation

 

 

http://stepup-international.co.uk/upcoming-events-2/  Last 2 places on The Psychology of Self Harm & Behaviour Course, 17 June 2011, in Birmingham. Do you work with young people who self harm? Join us

 

 

We will be looking at the correlation between food and self harm shortly

 

 

What are your views? Can You Love Again After An Abusive Relationship?

 

I have a Radio Interview on the Jonathan Vernon Smith Show, Monday 23 May 2010 at approx 10.30a.m. Tune in to  http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p001xfs2 BBC Three Counties Radio 95.5FM/103.8FM/104.5FM. Topic: Can You Love Again After An Abusive Relationship? Special guest will be in the studio who experienced a very violent and abusive relationship. Join us! 

 

 

What stops a parent whose child is self harming, from getting help? www.stepup-international.co.uk

 

 

 

Would you know what to do if your son/daughter was self harming? http://bit.ly/gD2oFF

 

 

 

Children as young as four are using computers today and can easily access unsavoury websites. Have you considered the internet to be a dangerous tool that is readily available to children? http://bit.ly/mpQUNH Do we need to do more regarding internet safety?

 

 

 

Children as young as four are using computers today and can easily access unsavoury websites. Have you considered the internet to be a dangerous tool that is readily available to children? http://bit.ly/mpQUNH Do we need to do more regarding internet safety?

How safe is your child on the internet? Internet safety for children is paramount http://bit.ly/mpQUNH

 

 

Would you know what to do if your son/daughter was self harming? http://bit.ly/gD2oFF

 

 

Just 3 Places left for Psychology of Self Harm & Behaviour Course Friday 17 June 2011 http://bit.ly/gD2oFF  Grab your place now!

 

 

 

One more delegate signed up for Psychology of Self Harm & Behaviour Course Friday 17 June 2011 http://bit.ly/gD2oFF

 

 

Parents Self Harm Help

   Parents Self Harm Help

We have all heard by now of the rise in self harm amongst young people. For some parents this news will have come as a complete shock on hearing that one of those young people is their son or daughter.

Then starts the challenge of knowing which is the best approach to adopt in supporting your child, in supporting yourself  and the rest of the family, and of course, dealing with the self harming activity itself. This is also coupled with the challenge of knowing where to turn for help and which professional to approach!

In addition to the above, there are the added challenges of dealing with a gamut of raw emotions such as fear, guilt, sadness, anxiety, hurt, together with self blame, blaming other family members and/or the person who is self harming, in an attempt to somehow find a way through this situation and wondering why people self harm.

In these circumstances, parents can often feel quite alone, isolated and frustrated. With the stigma attached to self harm and some medical professional’s unhelpful approach to self harm, it is not always an easy situation and condition to deal with or get appropriate support for. The search for real help is made that much harder with websites promoting how to self harm. That said, parents self blame, however, does not help them or the situation, but rather keeps them stuck. There are a myriad of reasons why the self harming activity occurred in the first place. For instance, it can be triggered by simple causes like exam pressure to other complex family related matters. An open flow of information and communication is definitely the key in getting to the root cause of the self harming behaviour and gaining more self harm awareness.

Self harming activities are wide ranging and not just the stereotypical cutting. Hair pulling, alcohol abuse, gang culture, self neglect and head banging are just some other examples of self harm. It is also an activity that transcends all cultures, societies, religion and ages, starting from as young as three or four years old to senior citizens in their eighties. Indeed, some parents are themselves people who self harm and may have concerns about the knock on effect that this will have on their children.

There isn’t a typical person who self harms or a typical family that people who self harm come from.

Given that self harm is generally a cry for help, the situation isn’t just going to go away by itself! Parents require an avenue and means of getting the help and self harm support and open communication to deal with it.

One source of information is seeking advice via your local GP/doctor and another is via local counselling or therapeutic interventions.

The main thing is to acknowledge that there is a situation that needs to be dealt with if the whole family is to move forward.

This article © Jennifer McLeod 2011

All Rights Reserved. Not to be reproduced without permission

What stops a parent whose child is self harming, from getting help? www.stepup-international.co.uk

 

 

Where do parents go to get help for their children who are self harming?  www.stepup-international.co.uk

 

 

Only a few places left on Psychology of Self Harm & Behaviour Course Friday 17 June 2011 http://bit.ly/gD2oFF

 

 

How do parents cope with self harm? www.stepup-international.co.uk

 

 

Ugandan politicians have halted the Death Penalty for anyone who is homosexual thanks to worldwide petitions organised by www.avaaz.org

 

 

How do parents deal with self harm? http://bit.ly/gD2oFF

 

 

Supporting parents with self harm   http://bit.ly/gD2oFF

 

 

Sign this petition to stop Uganda jailing gay people for life or imposing the death penalty http://bit.ly/khQXT0  Or visit www.avaaz.org to find out more

 

 

URGENT - EU ban on herbal remedies. Sign the petition here:  http://bit.ly/j0hOyI

 

 

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This is Mental!!  Our Affiliate Programme just got better! Earn MORE promoting our programmes here: http://stepup-international.co.uk/affiliate-programme/

 

 

 

Happy Easter to all those celebrating it!

 

 

Had my first morning walk this morning for nearly a year. Felt absolutely fantastic and refreshing! Passersby had the pleasure of me singing too J

 

 

Hope all MUMS celebrating MOTHER’S DAY yesterday had a truly wonderful day, time and experience. For those of us who no longer have our mums, focus on the precious moments that they gave you. With love – Jennifer x

 

 

Education Inspirational Speech for Parents by Khang Tuong Nguyen – 11 Years Old. Is this young man off to a great start or what?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WxlcGCGUG5o

 

 

 

The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them. ~ George Bernard Shaw

 

 

I talked to one of my prospective clients today. They said that they didn’t have a self harm problem at the moment, but ‘we do have a lot of eating problems here!’ what’s your perception of self harm?

 

 

 

What do you think drives people to self harm?

 

 

TOP TIP: How to help people to untangle their mixed up feelings: - Restate their problem as a question like this: ‘So the Question seems to be: How do you express that you are feeling unloved at home without self harming?’

 

 

A parent being forced to do parenting programmes doesn’t necessarily work! If the parent is not willing to embrace the learning on the programmes, just like any other course, they are wasting their time. The emphasis for me is to work with the parent in respect of the ROOT CAUSE of their challenges. Inadequate or inappropriate parenting is simply a SYMPTOM of what is going on at the root cause or root level.

 

 

As I am making my sales calls for the past couple of days, it appears that the rise in self harm in young people is increasing to the extent where staff are both overwhelmed and baffled at the same time, as to what would lead them to self harm in the way that they do.

 

 

The strongest among the weak is the one who doesn't forget his weaknesses.  - Danish Proverb

 

 

 

Oh Lord, Bless our YOUNG PEOPLE  from us ‘adults’ who can’t do, won’t do, should do, shouldn’t do, refuse to do, that which we expect and tell our young people to do!, BUT wish we (adults) could do!

Oh and yeah, help us adults to develop the COURAGE to do that which we expect our young to do.

 

 

Often adults talk about young people not taking responsibility for their actions. Often adults haven’t shown young people HOW to take responsibility! That is, adults haven’t lead the way or been a good role model for young people to learn how to take responsibility. Adults? = parents, teachers, society as a whole

 

 

Facebook teams up with Samaritans to prevent suicide www.stepup-international.co.uk/news/

 

 

All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.  Brian Tracy

 

 

3 Strikes and You’re Out! www.stepup-international.co.uk

 

 

Question: If you were to do just one thing that, if you did it consistently it would make a difference in your business or your life, what would that one thing be?

 

 

Facebook and Samaritans join forces to help people who might be feeling suicidal to offer them other possibilities

 

 

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is 

our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most...We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people 

permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.  - Marianne Williamson, American author and lecturer

 

 

To celebrate 100 Years of International Women's Day, vote for the most 'Divine Woman' in the UK www.stepup-international.co.uk

 

 

Happy Happy International Women’s Day to all women across the world

 

 

I have updated my website. Take a look www.borntowin-book.com

 

 

Comparison website states that New European Court ruling on insurance is effectively a gender tax on women. Read more here  http://bit.ly/hIrfEB

 

 

“After all is said and done, a lot more will have been said than done” ~ J

 

 

I am only one, but still I am one.  I cannot do everything, But still I can do something; And because I cannot do everything
I will not refuse to do the something that I can do. ~ Edward Everett Hale

 

 

On my way to my Easy Tiger Parents’ Programme. Looking forward to Liberating more parents!

 

 

Is it time for you to write that LIFE STORY? Go HERE www.stepup-international.co.uk/news/  to find out how you can get that done in book form or DVD

 

 

Being a parent is the hardest and most challenging role that anyone can take on, however, it is even harder if we haven’t got our act together or dealt with our own stuff or baggage

 

 

It is our ‘internal world’ that is creating all the conditions in our lives, our ‘external world’ ~ It is too easy to blame other people for things that we don’t like in our lives

 

 

“If we never faced adversity, our well-being wouldn’t be as sweet” ~ Terry Kellog

 

 

Just published my ‘Born To Win! Success Strategies Ebook on Amazon Kindle. Read more here: http://amzn.to/fzJ4Nh

 

 

More DISCOUNT Offers! Want to LOSE WEIGHT or get fit and healthy? Get your Discounts www.stepup-international.co.uk/news/ including no membership fees

 

 

Did you get your DISCOUNTS on Half Term breaks with your children http://stepup-international.co.uk/news/ including discounts on THEME PARKS & Nights out

 

Get DISCOUNTS on Half Term breaks with your children http://stepup-international.co.uk/news/ including discounts on THEME PARKS & Nights out

 

 

 

Yippeeee! More people taking advantage of my Early Bird Special Offer 10% DISCOUNT on my Self Harm Training course 17 June 2011. Get your DISCOUNT  http://bit.ly/h6m9kI and quote “EarlyBirdSpecial2011” to get your discount.

 

 

“Be stubborn, but not when life is trying to tell you the opposite of what you want to hear, otherwise don’t blame destiny or God for your own mistakes.” ~ Anon

 

 

“If you want to succeed, double your failure rate”. Thomas Watson, IBM pioneer

 

 

PARENTS WANTED! I have had a request from BBC3 TV regarding filming my Easy Tiger Parents Programmes and in particular following parents progress over a period time, especially parents with teenage children.

 

Are you a parent with teenage children? If so, see BBC 3 TV’s request here:   www.stepup-international.co.uk

 

 

 

In the middle of sorting out my published and unpublished books and eBooks and also which ones have yet to be published to Amazon Kindle!

 

 

It’s better to be safe than sorry!  http://bit.ly/e8FQKt

 

 

A web browser geared towards Children's Internet Safety http://stepup-international.co.uk/resources-2/ we all know how easy – and scary it is for children to easily access the internet these days. Here’s a web browser to help you to protect them

 

 

Do you know anyone who is going through a hard time with their parents because of manipulative parenting? A child or an adult child? How Do You Stop or Deal With Manipulative Parents? eBook  will help! Others have already found it beneficial. Check it out here: http://tinyurl.com/64sctva

 

 

 

And it’s started! Sales of my Amazon Kindle ebook How Do You Stop or Deal With Manipulative Parents? Get your copy here:   https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B004MDLU3M

 

 

 

“Your attitude about who you are and what you have is a very little thing that makes a very big difference” ~Theodore Roosevelt

 

 

How Do You Stop or Deal With Manipulative Parents?

 Here’s my first Kindle book on Dealing with Manipulative Parents. Check it out here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B004MDLU3M

Jennifer McLeod

Remember to get your EarlyBirdSpecial2011 Discount for Self Harm Training Course here: http://tinyurl.com/6j5ogt5

 

 

Don’t despair, just prepare!

Anything that has happened to us in the past is just preparation for what we will become. Some people ALLOW themselves to stay stuck in the past because of these experiences, whilst others use the experiences to move them forward. So in essence, you could say ‘Thank you’ instead of ‘why me?’

 

 

Remember to get your EarlyBirdSpecial2011 Discount for Self Harm Training Course here: http://tinyurl.com/6j5ogt5

 

 

If you don’t like the people or circumstances around you, then CHANGE…….YOU!  Change you, so you stop attracting those kinds of people and those kinds of circumstances!

 

 

Enjoying my daily breakfast of inspirational nuggets from the likes of Brian Tracy and catching up on my Turkish. Merhaba to all my Turkish friends out there

 

 

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment!” Ralph Waldo Emerson. Yes, I really like that quote and true

Anyway, off to LIBERATE other parents on one of my new Easy Tiger Parents Programmes.

 

 

This is so funny! I rang one of my Easy Tiger Parents Programme Graduates last week as part of our normal 3 – 12 month Progress Review just to see how she was getting on post the programme. And guess what? She refused to talk to me!!! Why? Because she was in the middle of her ‘ME TIME’ activity J, which was something that she learnt to do and developed whilst she was on the programme. J I guess the programme is still working for her then!!!! And she completed the programme over 12 months ago. Brilliant!

 

 

 

 Sheer Brilliance in action! Dr John Demartini. He has some short Events now as well as his weekend Breakthrough Experience Event.    http://stepupint-affiliates1.eventbrite.com/ His audio programmes are the only ones that my SON has ever asked to borrow! And his brother thinks that I have brainwashed him! Have a look see which event suits you best

 

Just published my first Amazon Kindle book. Will let you have details as soon as Amazon has reviewed the book and released it for sale. In the meantime, check out my Born To Win book here http://tinyurl.com/66punm

 

 

 

See my latest article 'Domestic Violence and Abuse Go Orders' here: www.stepup-international.co.uk

 

 

Another Easy Tiger Parents Programme starting next Monday. Looking forward to kick the programme off. We have maximum numbers attending next week. Brilliant!

 

 

All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.   Brian Tracy

 

 

See my latest article ‘Domestic Violence and Abuse Go Orders’ here: www.stepup-international.co.uk

 

 

The government hasn’t introduced the GANG INJUNCTION for young people yet, though they intend to if the pilot with adult gang members works. I’m glad they haven’t introduced it for young people yet because it’s not more injunctions, jails and criminalization that young people need, but PROPER help to stay out of gangs, not join them in the first place. Young people join gangs because gangs fill massive gaps and VOIDS in their lives. What they need is something positive to replace the gang mentality first, before taking this, their survival strategy away from them!!

 

 

The government has decided to launch a GANG INJUNCTION in England and Wales yesterday, restricting the movements of adults believed to be gang members. This includes police having on the spot powers to stop gang members meeting each other and going into certain neighbourhoods.     

 

 

I truly believe that when we are ready, the teacher will appear! I’ve seen this happen several times in my life and was thankful for the teacher appearing when they did as apposed to when I thought I wanted them